Proverbs 17:9; Proverbs 18:19-21; Proverbs 18:24 (New International Version)
Whoever would foster love covers over an offense,
but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.
Proverbs 18:19-21, 24
19 A brother wronged is more unyielding than a fortified city;
disputes are like the barred gates of a citadel.
20 From the fruit of their mouth a person’s stomach is filled;
with the harvest of their lips they are satisfied.
21 The tongue has the power of life and death,
and those who love it will eat its fruit.
24 One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin,
but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
So my notes from April 3 2003 on these passages were very unhelpful and amusing so I’ll try to give a better word on this.
Id say it is safe to say that people can be unreliable and very unhelpful. At the same time it is safe to say that people can be reliable and very helpful! The key is people are inconsistent. Your closest friends can be inconsistent, your family can be inconsistent, and your spouse can be inconsistent. However Christ is always consistent!
We all have the power to hurt people with our words and our inconsistency with them. We need to be careful who we surround ourselves with. Are your closest friends uplifting and encouraging? Do they help you in times of need? Do their lives reflect God’s glory? The people we choose to spend time with influence us greatly and we need to be careful who we allow in our lives and how they will influence and speak into our lives.
Choose your friends wisely and watch your tongue when speaking of others. People will hurt us but Jesus will always be there for us.