Why you need to stop watching porn

I would say that my friend Ryley has done a great job at bringing some helpful stats on this subject on his blog http://dayoldmusings.wordpress.com/ and handles the subject appropriately. So do yourself a favor and check it out. However I have to say that the more we hear we about why pornography is not only wrong but dangerous the better we will all be, esecially if we take time to listen! So here is a short list of reasons why you NEED to stop watching pornography.

1. It is against the very way God made creation to function.

God has set the world to work in certain ways that line up with his will and direction. When we deviate from this we only end up hurting ourselves and actually rebel against the God who loves us. Proverbs talks a lot about this and would be an important (among many) book to read when battling against this. Ephesians 5:3 “But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.”

2. It hurts your brain.

Every time you engage in an activity that fires up your pleasure center it feels really good! This in of itself is not wrong, however when you engage in an activity that is constantly doing this, like porn, then part of your brain actually gets damaged. Donald Hilton Jr. writes “Just like other addictions, pornography addiction will interrupt dopamine, which functions as a neurotransmitter, and it will cause a part of the brain to shrink,” Hilton claims. “The shrinkage occurs in the Ventral Tegmental Area, or VTA, at the front of the brain.” Basically when you are addicted to porn your emotions are not in check and the things that bring you joy and pain are lowered and you do not feel emotions to the level you should. Along with this it often leads to people being more short with others and irritated a lot easier!

3. Once you start its VERY difficult to stop.

Pornography addicts have a more difficult time recovering from their addiction than cocaine addicts, since coke users can get the drug out of their system, but pornographic images stay in the brain forever. Ask almost anyone who has ever struggled with pornography about the images they have seen and they will likely tell you how they still can access the scenes in their brain, this makes it very tough to kick the addiction!

4. It ruins your ministry.

The last stat I heard on this subject was that 4 in every 10 pastors struggle with pornography. The stories I hear of pastors (both youth and lead pastors) getting fired or quitting because of pornography addictions is frightening. This is tearing the church apart and if you are considering being in ministry and struggle with this I hope for yourself and the church you are going to serve that you take this seriously and not allow it to cause troubles down the road

5. It ruins your marriage.

It would be a delusional thought to figure that marriage will fix your porn addiction. With that backward logic the same person would have to assume that marriage would fix their drug or alcohol addiction too. Marriage does not give you the right to watch porn, it allows you to have sex with your husband or wife. Sex is not porn therefore having sex does not solve your porn problems, your still going to be addicted to porn, don’t be a fool! This assumption i believe leads to many divorces. I always thought that was true but never actually saw it as a real problem since i didn’t know anyone personally who has experienced this. However this has hit close to home for a lot of my friends and their marriages suffer because of it. Do not go into a marriage without seriously working through this addiction and making sure your spouse is aware of it as well!

Well there is far more to be said but ill stop there, hope this was helpful for someone out there. If this is a reality for you please please please seek help and realize how serious (since it is a sin) this really is!

-bent 😉

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4 thoughts on “Why you need to stop watching porn

  1. ryleyhep says:

    It’s degrading to women. Women feel like they are not good enough/ sexy enough etc. Why does he want to look at that instead of me? It tears down their self esteem and makes them loose trust in the person they are with. – mom

  2. Ben Jepsen says:

    That is very true, and the thing with pornography is so much of the industry is a very dark place where women are taken in off the streets at times and given drugs to perform! The idea of a Christian (or anyone for that matter) supporting that is terrifying!

  3. Cindy says:

    I certainly agree with your comments about the addict seeking help BEFORE marriage or even warning their potential wife they have this affliction. I wasn’t given that choice. I found out the hard way, after the marriage and I felt doubly betrayed.

  4. Ben Jepsen says:

    Cindy I am very sorry to hear that! I fear that many women and men are in your position and are trying to pick up the pieces. This needs to stop! People deserve better and we need to get a hold of our addictions and help one another so we wont be hurting one another. Stay strong there is healing in Christ!

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